Your child’s resilience is molded by the experiences he or she encounters day today. How we are as parents reacting to their behaviour, their needs, their general welfare, is critical to helping them grow and to nurture them into well balanced and adjusted human beings.
I went to an uplifting talk by the warm and engaging Margareta James of The Harley Street Wellbeing Clinic on resilience in children recently. Margareta’s insight is truly an eye-opener and really brings it home to the parent how they can make better choices regarding their children.
Nobody expects you to be an expert on raising kids as we are all working with the knowledge we have been taught. But knowing nothing is set in stone and that everything is changeable with a little work will be a relief to some. Changing their limiting beliefs and unhealthy habits early in childhood is essential for a smooth transition into adulthood. They are our future after all.
Are your beliefs serving you well?
Have you questioned your beliefs recently? Are your beliefs still serving you well? We all get stuck in the moment but beliefs are formed from our experiences. Our beliefs are no less important than our children’s beliefs. It is of special importance that you validate your child’s beliefs as these are formed from the very experiences of how they see the world. You can encourage new beliefs based on new experiences to release less serving ones if needed.
Top tip from Margareta is to question, question and question some more! If children are given the right tools they can question their decisions, they can question their choices, their beliefs, and thoughts, ultimately change their blueprint and overall behaviour. Margareta has many solutions for this and I recommend you try one of her talks.
Another important point she mentioned was not comparing your child to another. Compare your child to themselves. Simple enough. Show them how they have progressed since the year began. Give them something to be proud of. If they can see their progress they will get it. Being a free reader or the best at Maths is great but it’s also important to praise other talents and encourage visualisation and if it suits mindfulness.
Take your time with your kids, listen to what they have to say and please don’t dismiss their feelings as I’m sure they wouldn’t dismiss yours.